I have a problem with fil re breastfeeding
It's your house, love. If they don't like it they can go somewhere else while you're feeding.
Saying that, when my fil came to visit when she was 2 weeks old I went upstair because it may have taken quite a long time. By the time we went to visit him she was 5 weeks and I feed with my back to the room. By then I was feeding all over the place lol! I have a throw for when I'm out and about just incase she pulls off unexpectedly.
It'll come. Your lo really is only very young. Go easy on yourself.
hi all,
when i started feeing rivre, my first my bf always told me to go upstairs to feed him whenever his older kids came to visit, (he has 3, 2 girls and a boy) or if i wanted to feed him at their house id have to go upstairs too. i just want to moan as i thought the dads were supposed to be supportive, but instead he calls me an exhabitionist and it really upsets me
we always have arguments about this, therefore im never fully comfortable feeding and now with james i dont feel like im producing enough milk as i never am able to complete a feed as he always wants to go out or i feel as if im always being hurried, james is fine and seems to be getting enough its just the "not being able to feed whenever we need to" thing
if i do feed in public, which i do when hes not with me, im always covered with a blanket so not making an exhabition
when im with bf though i have to use public toilets which i detest and i always ask him if he would eat his dinner in a public toilet he says YES he is definately lying there!!!!!!
his older children were all bottle fed so its completely different and i think he doesnt like the fact that i gave rivre and am giving james a better start to life than he did with the others
sorry for the long moan, thanks for reading
love sara, rivre and james xxx
It can be a bit weird feeding in front of people to start with...I felt funny feeding in front of my dad initially - though he usually either moves to the back of the room or he pretends to fall asleep lol! and my brother -who I did actually leave the room as it felt a bit weird! But on the whole it does get easier - luckily dp is not bothered by it and encourages me to feed our lo out in public or in family & friends homes if she needs fed! x
Oh and you will start to find places where you can feed in private if you want, and then you can stay out for longer. Mothercare is one that' usually good and no one checks if you are actually buying anything. It does get easier, promise!
I had a problem feeding in front of my parents, have a weird relationship with them, and we were staying in their house from the birth till lo was 4 months. I still managed to feed in private. I couldn't feed in front of anyone to start with but gradually I've got more relaxed about it, as long as I have a cover. It would still bother me in front of my parents (although I have once or twice) but not bothered in front of anyone else.
If I'm going to the inlaws I normally ask if I can go upstairs out of the way. At my Dads I normally say I'm getting my boobs out and he goes upstairs on his computer and I shout him when I'm finished. At my mams I feed in front of her. The first time I did she just stared at us and went awww! It was a bit off putting especially when lo latched off and I squirted over the coffee table! I always ask if I can feed lo or if they want me to use another room if I'm visiting anyone else. I think men can be embarrased but if its discreet and everything is covered your priority is to feed lo. As for your fil I suppose if its your house you should be able to feed her whenever or where ever, if he doesn't like it he can always go! Keep up with the feeding as it really is the greatest thing you can do and its a great excuse for a cuddle too! x